Perspective

Life is really all about perspective and attitude.  Each day I could find a lot of things to complain about, and to be honest, I often do.  There are lots of things to feel angry, sad or a sense of unfairness about.  Life really isn't fair, you know.  We don't get to choose everything about our life and all that we want it to include.  We just have to deal with the life we've been given and know that God has given us what He deems best. 

Choosing to have the right perspective and attitude is a daily choice.  Actually, a moment by moment choice.  Sometimes I get overwhelmed with the needs of my children.  5 children have a lot of needs and when you add spina bifida challenges, it can feel overwhelming at any given moment.  I have an amazing husband and helpmate, but sometimes the needs of our household can overwhelm both of us. 

What helps me keep perspective is the alternative.  I can't imagine life without any of our precious children.  The only alternative to having to deal with their needs, is not having them at all.  That thought stops me in my complaining tracks.  I know some parents who are getting through life without one of their children here anymore, and they'd give anything to have them here again.  Honestly, having a "chronically ill" child does make you realize it is not a given that you are going to outlive your children.   

Each of our children and their unique personalities, qualities and challenges has changed me, touched me, and blessed me and I am honored to be their Mom.  Without them I would not be the person I am today.  My life would not be as rich.  Is it such a joy to know them and raise them and love them.  They are talented, smart, funny, creative, thoughtful, helpful and a whole lot more. 

Since our thoughts and attitudes are so important, we are memorizing Phil 4:8 as a family.  I think maybe I need it more than anyone.  What will I choose to think about and focus on today?  It really does make all the difference. 

Phil. 4:8 - "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."