Saturday, January 29, 2011

Melody Update



Melody has made lots of strides in the last month or so. She continues to crawl all over the place. In the evenings her little elbows are red from pulling herself all over. Tonight I noticed several bruises, too. She is into everything as pulls herself up and then can land pretty hard on her elbows.


She is really getting fast and sure gets mad when we thwart her efforts to get into the bathrooms, drawers, or into the boys legos. She throws tantrums by going rigid and making fists and shaking. It is really pretty funny, but we are trying not to encourage her.


This month Melody has had a head CT scan to make sure her shunt is functioning properly, which came back with a favorable result. She also saw the orthopaedic nurse practicioner who gave her an all clear on her hips. We'll return in 6 months for another followup, but it was wonderful news. The Nurse Practitioner also looked at Melody's AFO's (ankle foot orthodics) for the first time since they were fitted and said they are doing exactly what they need to be for her feet.


At Melody's checkup this month she was 22 1/2 pounds. She is on the small size for both height and weight, which we expect. Her head size is always over the 100th percentile, but that is the spina bifida and the shunt, so that is normal for her.


The most exciting thing is that as Melody does the "army crawl" everywhere, we are noticing that she is pulling her knees up more and more. She can really get her bottom up off the ground and we are working with her in a traditional crawling position as well as weight bearing on her knees. She is bending her knees now more than ever and moves more from the hip all the time.

This past month we're been back to active physical therapy twice each week. That will go through next week, and then we'll have a month off before going back to active again. It really makes a difference, especially in helping us know what to do at home. I think she has already met her goals for this month.


Her movements can be pretty unorthodox, but they are pretty entertaining, too. It is amazing how determined she can be and how creative. It is amazing what people can do. We've seen Melody grab her leg and almost throw it to get it out of her way, or where she wants it. She also has grabbed her pants to help her sit up. She'll lean over and almost dive onto her belly to get into a crawling position if she is in a hurry.


The question I am asked most often is "will she walk someday?" I truly believe along with most of the doctors and physical therapist that she will. What that will look like is anyone's guess and best guesses are that she will be 3-4 years of age before she is walking. From everything I can tell, Melody has limited (if any) feeling and movement below the knee. For the very first time this past month Melody pushed off when her foot touched the ground. This was very encouraging, but it will be a long journey to learn to walk without feeling the ground. For now it is one step at a time.

We are excited about how well Melody is progressing. So far, every goal that has been set has been attained. We'll take it one step at a time and look forward to seeing what Melody will be doing next.

Saturday, January 8, 2011

Christmas Memories


We had a wonderful, blessed time together as a family in Idaho this Christmas. It was the first time in many years that our whole "Coats" family had been together for Christmas. I'm still enjoying all the fun memories we made.

Here is what our time together looked like.

A lot of snowball throwing (and eating).
Reciting Luke 2 and singing Christmas Carols.

A lot of sledding with Grandpa assisting almost every time!
And of course lots of eating!!



Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Travel Thoughts

We just returned from a driving trip to Idaho where we had a wonderful, memorable and blessed Christmas with my family. Here are a few things I noticed along the 18oo or so miles we traveled.

- The Red Box policy of returning your DVD's to ANY Redbox location is genius for the traveling family with a DVD player.
- A one-year-old in the van means you'll hear desperate screams every so often that one can only surmise mean "get me out of here!"
- Catheters every 4 hours rise to a whole new level of challenge when you are traveling through rural Nevada, Oregon and Idaho in the dead of winter.
- When over half of your family are children ages 12 and under, your time together is bound to be loud and lively.
- Family pictures with a one-year-old, two-year-old, three-year-old and four-year old will challenge even the best of photographers.
- Our Idaho friends may think we're crazy for living in Southern California, but we're not the ones sitting in over three feet of snow right now.
- A Ninetendo DS for Christmas and new games is a great gift for children about to be sequestered in a van for 18 hours.
- Children of all ages will watch Baby Einstein if contained in a moving vehicle for several hours.
- Parents' grand plans of making a "quick stop" for lunch or dinner were thwarted when they decided to have 5 children to feed, exercise and use the facilities.
- Snow is beautiful and lots of fun, but I can't say I'm sad to leave it behind.
- When your children who sleep on the floor at home complain about the beds in your overnight accommodations, you know your pickins were pretty slim.
- A community and church who provide meals for a family of 15 for a week leave you feeling amazed, humbled and abundantly blessed.
- Cancer may take your health, but it will never take your faith!

No matter how long the journey, it is always worth it to see your family!

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Cutest Army Crawl

I can't believe it has been almost a month since I blogged last. A LOT has been going on, but I won't attempt to update everything today.

One of the most exciting things happening in our home is that Melody has learned to "combat crawl" forward. She has been doing it here and there when especially motivated to get to something. Her brother's Legos and my cell phone are two big motivators. However, until tonight I hadn't caught her on film. Tonight the motivator was Joel's dirty socks!

We are so proud of Melody and her newest milestone. Watch her go!

Monday, November 22, 2010

Family Updates

There is so much going on in my life these days, sometimes it is impossible to keep it all straight. However, here are a few of the things I am asked about these days.

Melody - She finished active Physical Therapy and made great progress. We'll have a visit in December, but won't start active PT again until January. This is actually a blessing right now. Getting there two mornings a week was a challenge. Melody is starting to push up on all fours (crawling position), move herself across the floor either backward or foreward, sits and rolls over regularly. She has unorthodox ways of doing things, but she's getting it done. I have lots of exercises to do with her each day and am figuring ways to fit them into our routine and not forget them.

If we can ever get insurance issues worked out, Melody will be seeing the Orthopedic doctor for a follow up on her hips and going to spina bifida clinic for her next checkup there in December.

A House - Still no house for us. We were in escrow on one, but fell out due to the bank's failure to get us a letter on time. It came a week late. We have another offer being sent to the bank, but we have yet to see that house. It is a "subject to interior inspection" so you can't see it unless they accept your offer. We hope to see it soon. So, we will see. The market can go weeks without a any homes that fit our needs go on the market. Renting a home for awhile may become a real possibility in the new year.

My Mom - My Mom does indeed have pancreatic cancer. We are all still trying to wrap our heads around this difficult news and it's implictions. We know that she will begin treatment, but as of now, we aren't sure what that will be or when. It was caught fairly early as the tumor is blocking the liver and pancreas ducts, so Mom was turning yellow and itching all over from the build up of bile in her body. They have placed a stent for the liver to drain and given her medication to replace pancreas enzymes. Unfortunately, it is inoperable due to the fact that is wrapped around a couple arteries. Right now the goal is to get Mom feeling better. A couple weeks without sleep due to constant itching have taken their toll and her liver needs to rebound. She also needs to figure out some diet and exercise issues. Right now the cancer is isolated to the pancreas and at least one duct adjacent to the pancreas.

Travels- I will be going to Idaho this week with Melody for just a few days to see my Mom and Dad. It is important for me to see them, even for a very short time. My brother, Steve, will be there for a couple days as well and Tim, if the weather allows him to travel. In just a few weeks, at Christmas time, all our families will return for Christmas. There will be 15 of us total, so we are praying Mom is up to that by then.

Lego League - David's Lego Robotics team won the Grand Champion at the qualifier a couple of weeks ago, so we are off to Legoland in early December to watch them compete there. It is great to watch the kids work together. The competition is judged not only on the performance of their robots, but the kids teamwork, attitudes, spirit, judges questions, presentation skills and how they interact with other teams. We are proud of their academic achievements, but most importantly we are proud of the character these 10 students are showing.

An Old Fashioned Christmas- On the 7th at 7pm Elizabeth will be performing with her school in An Old Fashioned Christmas. She is so excited to have a solo and has been practicing Christmas songs for months. I love to hear her singing loudly and proudly around the house. If you want to come see her, let me know as tickets are limited and I have to buy them next week.

Crafting - Hannah chose crafts as her elective in school this year, so she is having a blast. A huge box of crafts arrived recently and she would have them all done by now if I would let her. We are saving some of the smaller ones for the trip in the car to Idaho at Christmas. Now we just need a house so we have a place to display them all.

T-Ball- Joel has 2 more t-ball games left and the season will be over. I'm not sure how much he has enjoyed it, but he has been a hoot to watch. Of course, the snack after the game is the most exciting thing for him. We're trying to figure out if he is left or right handed, so that has been a challenge as he switches. If I can get it off my phone, I have a picture of him in all the catcher's gear. Very cute.

Friday, November 19, 2010

All the Days of Our Lives

There is a verse in Psalms that says, "Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever."

All the days.

Not just the good ones.

All the days.

The day when you sit in an ultrasound room and the doctors say "spina bifida."

All the days.

The day when you hear your mother has "pancreatic cancer."

All the days.

The day you learn the cancer is "inoperable."

All the days.

The day doctors say "3-4 years with treatment."

All the days.

It is in the midst of these life altering and heart breaking days when I sense the goodness and mercy of the Lord.

My heart still aches, the tears still flow, I still get angry and upset.

Yet, despite it all I feel His goodness and mercy following me even in these days. His peace in the midst of it all.

All the days.

"Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever." Psalm 23:6

Friday, November 5, 2010

Getting Away!

Kevin and I are getting away for a couple nights. 48 kid-free hours! We'll be staying close to home, but are looking forward to the time together. This is the first time we've been away since Melody's birth. We plan to do Disneyland tonight and go on a few rides the kids don't care for.

Pray for our kids while we are away as well as the caregivers who will be helping out for the next 48 hours. There are 6 people, including Grandma Allen that are helping to make this weekend possible. Words cannot express how thankful we are for these wonderful people in our lives.

Getting ready to leave for a couple days teaches you a few things, or maybe just reminds you what you already know. Either way, here are a few things I've discovered:

1) Writing a schedule of all that needs to be done in 24 hours makes a long list.
2) It is very hard to think of leaving my baby with all her special needs.
3) As hard as it is to leave Melody, I know this is one of the many steps toward independence that she and I will take over the years.
4) This is one of the many times I wish we lived closer to my family.
5) Our church family truly is an amazing family to us. The things they do for us are truly humbling.
6) You know you have true friends when they will learn to do a catheter for you.
7) Give your kids a chance to spend the day with Grandma or friends, and they won't care that you are going away.
8) Getting ready to leave is exhausting.
9) The thought of time alone with my wonderful Husband is wonderful.
10) You know you have 5 kids when the thing you're looking forward to most while you are away is uninterrupted sleep.